Like many in the United States, I’m taking a time out to understand systemic racism and my role as a white woman. I’m feeling fragile and broken, but that doesn’t give me permission to look away.
Silence when I see something broken makes me a part of the problem.
The resources below are mainly for families just waking up to this problem, non-Black families, who now see the need for addressing racism head-on. My goal is not to overwhelm you with “all the things”, but to give you a starting point.
KIDS 12 AND UP
– Watch Trevor Noah’s video (18 min) as a family. He talks about the broken social contract white people assume all Americans have agreed to and explains the bigger picture with the hundreds of years of aggression against Blacks in the U.S. Trevor has an understanding of the dominoes that are falling.
KIDS 10 AND UP
– Watch 18 year old Cameron Welch’s TikTok (less than 1 min) on the rules his Mom had him memorize to stay safe as a young Black man. Reflect on how your family rules are the same or different and how applying his rules would change how you showed up in public.
KIDS UNDER 12
– CNN and Sesame Street (1 hour) are partnering for a town hall on racism this Saturday, June 6th. 10am ET/7am PST on the CNN channel or cnn.com No subscription required. My kids are older but we’ll all be watching.
FOUNDATIONAL ANTI-RACISM RESOURCES FOR YOU
– Talking with your kids about racism video hosted by Dr. Kira Banks, with panelists Tim Wise, Bomani Jackson, Adelaide Lancaster and Nicole Lee
– Talking to kids about racism article in the New York Times article by Marie Tae McDermott, with school counselor Christiana Cobb-Dozier and children’s book author Christian Robinson.
– An online course called Intro to Racism by Patti Digh starts July 1st. It focuses on systemic and structural racism, white privilege, white fragility, the myth of colorblindness and how to be an effective ally. This course made me realize my silence about injustice IS racism. Patti’s lessons rocked me to my core and inspired me to act.
Lastly, be gentle with yourself and others.
I’m feeling raw. Exposed. Heartbroken.
Maybe you are too?
It’s important to recognize your feelings. Let your kids know you’re feeling raw. Use specifics–yesterday I burst into tears over a random comment my 16yo made in fun, but it felt hurtful because I was already hurting.
It’s okay to let your kids see how you’re affected AND what you’re doing about it to make their world equitable.
Learn and take action.